Of course...you'll heal up and I'm sure you are already passed the "crossed-roads" to recovery..here's the thing..this type of guy was obviously fathom-deep in attraction towards you...he couldn't resist you. Loneliness caused it..but also he did mess up..BAD..i mean a "married man" for crying out loud..I'm a Cancer Male but I'll have to condemn that.
Him confessing that he "is married"...was a very uncool gesture..because WHAT DOES HE EXPECT TO COME OUT OF RENDERING THAT INFO TO YOU..IF HE 'REALISTICALLY PLANS' (WHICH HE OBVIOUSLY DOES) TO STICK WITH HIS WIFE...he's a douche no doubt..no doubt..he was emotionally-manipulative to the point where you were attached to him..y didn't he tell you earlier he was married?!
This type of guy was fishing around bored because his wife was away..happened to have caught a BIG FISH to his surprise in boredom..and yet instead of deactivating love-games right then & there he pushes & pulls you into a storm of emotions..then he steps out of the eternal-summer-rain cloud..while you're put under it in a spell..and curses you with it by turning it into a cursed thunderstorming cloud - "I'm Married. My wife is away 6 months"..WTF!..I don't even think he was sporting for himself..he wanted to play emotional games...
If he didn't..he could just have made it a casual relationship (which you may not have agreed to) but at least start out smooth the way he did & then communicate before you became a love-victim that it would be better to keep the relationship "aloof & alive" or something..cos that was just cruel..he knew you must've been well-worthy of any good fortune of manhood (i mean like a good woman, deserving wife etc)..so he pressed with your buttons after a while to see if you were gonna be tempted to become involved in his personal mess - clean it up - and pave him a new path. It's worse than using someone I tell you!
He intended to upset you..that's what I'm further interpreting..he knew you were gonna be "angry"..why didn't he keep it to himself..divorce privately from his wife or something..& then re-bound to you...it's just..he put you in the spotlight there. Makes you happy. Then reverts & makes you sad. **** him!!
It's not like there's a section for him in the "good books of a man" bcos he suddenly confessed his marital status. He played his wife..meaning as you've said above..you could be next ("Possibly i don't want to be her either"). You're right. Ditch him. Cos this type of man wants you to get involved..that's his scheme..he's looking for a fairytale story under his own criterium..which maybe/maybe not his wife isn't providing.he wanted to secure himself sumhow.HOW DID HE KNOW FIRST AND FOREMOST THAT YOU "WERE GOING TO BE ANGRY"..the way he said it was already wrecking your nerve am sure..that was his plan..power of suggestion..emotional wordplay - If I were you..I wouldn't have jolted a pain to be reckoned as your own conceit to him..even if you loved him deeply..let it marinate as though it's normal for him 2 cheat...it would've CONFUSED HIM ARDENTLY!! He wouldn't understand you..bcos he of course has the vibe that you;re innocent & faithful (which i'm sure u r & should be)..but you get my point..retaliate the emotional game..because you have to be emotionally-fit to keep up with us CancerMen..we're very intuitive & the best in this area..along with Pisces & Scorpio..but especially us Cancerian Males..we know how to make women feel like a real woman.
TaurusAries - patience will work - as you said - time to heal & strengthen yourself will be worthwhile..but also keep subconsciously in mind whether u want him or not..cos at the end of the day..that's what really matters. Perhaps he is a good mind who had a somewhat bitter taste in his mouth (with his marriage) and wanted to rinse that away..yes he used you as the sink..but the point is..as far as to feel something..he definately did..like I said he knew he caught a one-in-the-million girl basically. So you became more than the sink..
Think of it like this..he NOW left a bitter taste in your mouth..you will be looking for a real sure thing henceforth..and pretty much when you came along you were like his escape (maybe i think) and he saw u later as the perceived real thing. Still. NO SCAPEGOAT FOR HIM..he's wrong. Broke his own vows!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
If he really wants you back..he must suffer..chase you back..let it be a string of events over a matter of time that leave you at peace and him tentatively restless..before you decide to give him a second look. Then you will know if he deserves a shot with you. and i mean he must really prove that with you he won't repeat his wife's scenarios when you're gone.
Smile..happy healing :-)