4thelove - Volpy hit it on the head! It's ego gratification, they need it, crave it, require it (to an extent). All men like their ego stroked, but I notice with Vs they seem to need it more than most ( I think it helps them minimize their own insecurity and self pity) and remember; many of them are EXTREMELY selfish. It's truly me, me, me, and me some more so I'm not at all surprised he's pushing you to say it, but I'll betcha won't hear it from him. This is why things feel so "lopsided" when dating them, it's a lot of give on our end but little receiving and even when you do receive it's in the time frame they have created.
"he also said if I lived closer to him it would be so different." HA! No it wouldn't. Stable, normal, reciprocal relationships bore them, which is why when we pull back they come running, but when we are there lovingly by their side they pull away.
In your Vs defense he isn't "playing a game," not in the literal sense of hey I'm gonna lead libra on. It's moreso he is driven by what feels good for him at the moment and he has not considered the impact this may take on you. More than likely, he enjoys your company, attention, and companionship; but he likely hasn't thought any further than that. He's being honest when he says he doesn't want things to end, because he's enjoying it. This DOES NOT mean he feels the same as you and is willing to move forward (in action and word).
The first time I told my ex **** I loved him, I said "I'm not looking for you to say it back , I'm not looking for a response; I know we care for each other in different ways and I just want to be upfront about where I am and how I feel... Again I'm not looking for a response, but I love you and I hope
one day you can care for me as deeply as I care for you." He eventually (about a month later) sat
me down (literally sat me down, like a speech had to be made, it was clear this was not an impulsive more) and told me loved me to. There was no pressure from either side. The fact that your **** is pushing this (and I'm sure those who have been intimately involved with a **** will agree) makes me suspicious of his motives. Maybe he's just really insecure, who knows, but I'd continue doing what you're doing, observe his actions and maybe vein in your own feelings (just a bit).